Sam's story

Sam was a quiet and polite boy when he came to live with one of the Mission’s foster caregivers. But the caregiver knew that this was a survival mechanism he had learnt from an early age.

Eight year old Sam (name changed to protect privacy) had learnt at a very young age that it was best not to annoy adults. He came into our care from a home where domestic violence, parental drug abuse, sexual abuse, gang affiliations and recidivist offending were the norm.

Through slow, deliberate, inclusive and thoughtful strategies, our caregiver was able to make Sam feel safe. It was a long gradual process.

Sam’s caregiver also worked closely with his school teachers to make sure the appropriate support was in place, as he was clearly having difficulties with his learning. Her other children included him in all their activities so that he began to feel more like part of the family. Activities such as swimming, piano lessons and interacting with other kids helped Sam develop his social skills.

Caregivers are literally ‘one in a million’. The difference they make to the lives of so many Kiwi kids is enormous; the change in Sam’s behaviour and confidence illustrates this.

Methodist Mission Northern needs more caregivers to ensure the wellbeing of children. If you would like to talk to someone about what is involved in becoming a caregiver, please call Methodist Mission Northern (West Auckland Family Services) on (09) 818 6834. To find out more about the Mission’s work with children and families please click here.